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Wednesday 17 March 2010
I am 17 years old I have a bf that is 15 we have been together for almost 2 months we have seen each other a couple times and we talk all the time. His family doesnt have the fortunate circumstance I have of coming from wealth I receive a trust fund inheritance every month and i send them stuff i get him clothes and got him a cell phone that I pay for and I have my dad help them with rent and some of the bills his mom works 2 jobs just to make ends meet. I know he loves me for me because he didnt even know about all this until way after we were dating so my question is my friends say its wrong to help his family and give him gifts because its like putting them down making it seem they are a charity case does anyone think this is true because I dontI do not see it as being wrong. It seems rather sweet and generous. (I also believe that those that can should help those that need it in all aspects of life.) BUT... I am not sure that luxury items, such as cell phones, are appropriate to lavish on someone. And I do wonder what repercussions will occur when such funding to someone is suddenly taken away if you to should part company.
And to answer your main question... I think it is difficult for even the most saintly of us not to be judgmental.As long as it's a hand up, it's fine. But if it's a hand out, then it's not. Just watch out about how far you go. They may quit trying to make it on their own and grow more and more dependent on you and you're family. Then you have a bigger problem.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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